In recent days, I’ve gotten a couple of bits of bad news so have been too bummed to blog lately. One of those pieces of news is that a long-time friend of mine was diagnosed with lung cancer and had to have part of her lung removed. The doctors say they got it all, but she has been going through terrible pain and a difficult recovery. This friend, who became a fundie Xian about ten years after our friendship started, has stated in her online journal that her god has given her this “cross to bear” and is “walking with her” and “holding her hand” every step of the way and all that other melodramatic stuff that Xians love to use.
She seems to be handling it well, and is very motivated to get back to normal again, so I would never tell her that she is full of it, not now anyway. I would never kick out the crutch that is keeping her afloat during such a terribly difficult time while she is struggling to overcome and survive.
What I keep to myself, however, is the question “how the hell people can believe their god gives them terrible illnesses, injuries and tragedies as sadistic burdens they must bear in order for this god to walk beside them as they are on their journey to healing?” It would be like a mother or father intentionally breaking the leg of their child so they can lovingly nurse that child back to health! Ludicrous! Sounds like the movie Baby Jane. But this is what my friend believes, that god gives you these “crosses” as “burdens of his love”.
I have often heard Xians say that “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.” Those of us who have stopped to analyze the things Xians say understand how this statement implies that this god is some kind of torturer who sadistically brings pain and suffering on his creatures to get them to be closer to him, or some other “purpose”…and all-the-while they already are devout believers in him. Also, wouldn’t an omniscient, all-power god already know who is a “True Believer” and who is not?
While I will support my friend via encouraging and cheerful emails, I just cannot bring myself to continue reading her blog where all of her posts are stories about the challenges this god asshole is putting on her, and messages from her sheeple friends who write the same crap, that she is strong enough to endure what her god is putting on her.
I found THIS on a Xian website “Good News Ministries”:
To serve Jesus, we must follow Him. Where did He go? To the cross! We’ve grown up with the illusion that happiness comes from being right and protecting ourselves from hurts and from crucifixion. To find true happiness in troubled relationships, we must allow these people to crucify us. It doesn’t make sense in the world’s view, but Jesus showed us from the cross that it makes perfect sense from the perspective of love. He said: Stop fighting AND offer no resistance.
Creepy, isn’t it? Their goal is to get the suffering and downhearted to believe that resistance is futile.
The other bit of news is that an extended family member is getting divorced. The young couple who are getting divorced have never been particularly religious even though they were pressured to get married by fundie family members, one who happens to be a youth pastor. The announcement of divorce first sent shock and grief throughout even our extended family since this couple seemed to be happy and settled. Now that the dust has settled a bit…a week or so, family members are doing what they can to be supportive, however, the fundies are zeroing in for the “kill” since they come hovering around during or after a crisis in hopes of using that sad or difficult time to convert people. They have even convinced this person to fly to that remote Alaskan island to spend some time…(”surround and drown” time!) Get ‘em when they’re down. While I am sure that they will also be of some real human support, they have a bigger goal in mind and you and I know what that is.
I have had that happen even to myself during my hospital stays in recent years. Xians swoop on in with their god crap, hoping to suck another into the god delusion by convincing them that they need the crutch of an imaginary friend instead of simply friends and family being there for them as human beings. That’s who is there to help in reality, anyway.